No. 1Family & Parenting
Divorce Is a Loss, Even When It’s the Right Call
People expect to grieve a death. They’re often caught off guard by how much divorce hurts, even when it was their idea. You’re not only losing a spouse. You may be losing a house, a daily routine with your kids, shared friends, in-laws you loved and the future you’d pictured.
Grief after divorce doesn’t move in a straight line. You might feel fine at work on Tuesday and fall apart in the Hy-Vee parking lot on Wednesday because your ex’s favorite cereal was on sale. That isn’t weakness. It’s what happens when a big part of your life ends.
In our sessions we make room for all of it: sadness, rage, relief, loneliness, even the odd moments of missing someone you’re glad to be away from. Saying those feelings out loud takes away some of their power, and it helps you stop running the same painful loops at 2 a.m.
No. 2Family & Parenting
Rebuilding Yourself After Divorce in Omaha
Once the first wave settles, a quieter question shows up: who am I now? If you spent ten or twenty years as half of a couple, it can be disorienting to make every decision on your own, from what to cook for dinner to where to spend the holidays.
This is where the work gets practical. We look at the patterns you want to keep and the ones you’d like to leave behind. We use cognitive-behavioral tools to challenge the harsh stories you may be telling yourself (“I failed,” “Nobody will want me”) and replace them with something more accurate. We also talk about rebuilding confidence, friendships and, if and when you’re ready, dating again.
Plenty of people find this season becomes a real turning point. Not because divorce is good, but because it pushes you to take an honest look at what you want your life to be.
“Your marriage ended. Your life didn’t. Let’s figure out what you want the next chapter to look like.”
No. 3Family & Parenting
Co-Parenting Counseling: Kids First Without Losing Yourself
If you have children, your marriage is over but your relationship with your ex isn’t. You’ll be sharing school conferences, birthdays and probably a graduation or two. The question is whether those moments feel tense or tolerable.
Co-parenting work with me focuses on what’s in your control. We’ll build a way of communicating with your ex that’s brief, businesslike and boring in the best sense. We’ll work on keeping your kids out of the middle, so they never have to carry messages, pick sides or hear one parent run down the other. And we’ll plan for the predictable flashpoints: holidays, new partners, schedule changes and the teenager who suddenly wants to live at the other house.
- Low-drama scripts for texts and emails with your ex
- Handoff routines that are easier on the kids
- How to answer your children’s hard questions about the divorce
- Handling a new partner in either household
No. 4Family & Parenting
When You’re Worried About Parental Alienation
Sometimes the problem is bigger than ordinary friction. A child suddenly refuses visits, repeats adult phrases about you, or seems afraid to show you affection in front of the other parent. That’s frightening and heartbreaking.
I can help you sort out what you’re seeing, respond to your child in ways that keep the door open, and resist the very understandable urge to fight fire with fire, which usually makes things harder on the kids. Legal questions belong with your attorney. My role is to support you, your well-being and your relationship with your children through a painful stretch.
